Wednesday, November 26, 2014
Become familiar with your wife's world. Create a love map. A love map is essentially a mental map about her, that speaks her native language listing unique characteristics about her by gathering as much information as possible about her, in order to simulate her environment, in your head.
While creating this map, sky is the limit for a loving husband. He should be able to make note of her life dreams, her hopes and aspirations, her fantasies, what she likes and dislikes in a spouse, the current stress she is undergoing, her favorite music and movies, the color and the shades she likes the most, her favorite and least favorite relatives, the dreams she had as a child. The love map you build should even contain her current cloth and shoe sizes - literally everything about her.
It is a process of continuous discovery. If she is working, be thoroughly familiar with her world. Learn where she parks her car, through which door she goes in, where she sits, what is on her desk and inside those drawers, those objects which make up her surroundings, who are her best friends at work, what are her daily challenges, what are her small wins, and what her needs are. In a nutshell, know her world in and out, just like his own world, along with those ever changing variables.
Ephesians 5:28 ESV In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
Your relationship will elevate to a profound new level once you understand the inner world in which your wife lives. This will take some time to learn, but it paves way to know more about her childhood, the way her parents and siblings treated her, certain trauma or fears she had from childhood, those things she accomplished and holds on dearly and proudly. Remember - her world is your world too.
Ephesians 5:31 ESV “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”
Create a love map of your spouse in such a manner that she becomes your best friend. Show interest in her so that she opens up and reveals more to you in a way she never has. This will establish an amazing and strong friendship with your wife. Seek to continuously update that map by probing what she is thinking, feeling and doing, so that you are aware of her ever changing environment and needs. Use clues from the love map you developed to buy her small, yet valuable gifts on those special occasions.
Lord Almighty, I ask you to provide insight into the world my wife lives in - both inside and outside our home. Strengthen her in her world so that she is not alone. Enable me to be part of her world, and allow me to share her burdens and happiness. I lift up all those troubles she is facing today and request you to heal them.
Tuesday, November 25, 2014
Watch your wife get ready. Go stand behind her. Hug your wife from behind while she is working with her makeup. Look into the mirror while hugging her. Let her know how appealing and beautiful she looks. Also comment about her internal beauty and those lovely qualities. Encourage her to improve that inner beauty.
1 Peter 3:3-4 Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight.
Whenever possible, let her know the way you like her hair to be. Once in a while, offer to comb her hair, in front of the mirror. Think like that teenager you once used to be.
1 Corinthians 11:15 ESV But if a woman has long hair, it is her glory? For her hair is given to her for a covering.
Encourage your wife to cover her head during prayers. Help her with ornaments such as a chain or bracelet. Kiss her on the back of her neck right after hooking that chain.
Compliment your wife in specific ways if you find it pleasing. On that day you have to leave early to work, leave her a love note on the bathroom mirror. Make time to stay with her when she gets ready. Offer to dry her hair with the hairdryer - which enables you to understand the difficulty in maintaining long hair.
Heavenly Father, I thank you for the beauty you have provided my wife, which I enjoy everyday. Bless her continually with that internal beauty within her so that she may reflect and shine Your bright light wherever she goes. Let her beauty remind me about how wonderful You, her Creator are.