Showing posts with label Song of Songs. Show all posts
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Thursday, November 21, 2013

Song of Songs 8

The wife has persuaded King Solomon to go back to her home for a visit. The purpose is to visit family and to check how those vineyards were faring. This is sort of a honeymoon trip.

Apparently, her brothers are not so happy to see King Solomon with their sister, even though he is the King. The couple exhibited an open display of affection towards each other in front of them. Her mother wanted to make some pomegranate wine from their own trees. His wife wanted him to make love to her at her house.

However, as before, she cautions the maiden of Jerusalem not to awaken love early.
Song of Songs 8:4 Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you:
    Do not arouse or awaken love
    until it so desires.
Then one of her relatives happens to see her with King Solomon and asks this rhetorical question, with love and affection, "Who is this coming...?"

The relative remind her of the sacred pledge her mother took, under the apple tree. This relative was the one who taught her under the same apple tree. She was taught to wait for love until the appointed one will come receive her.

After being reminded of this pledge, she requests King Solomon to seal the pledge himself, placing her like a seal on his arm and in his heart.
Song of Songs 8:6 Place me like a seal over your heart,
    like a seal on your arm;
for love is as strong as death,
    its jealousy unyielding as the grave.
It burns like blazing fire,
    like a mighty flame.
The scene of the song now changes, and now one of her elder brothers approached her - most likely at a vineyard. He was the one who took care of her welfare and wanted King Solomon to know his concerns as well. Now that his sister is the King's wife, he expects some reward for taking care of her in the past, which he is not shy to ask.

He reminds the couple that they still have a younger sister to take care of. He reminds them how he was taking care of her.
Song of Songs 8:8 We have a little sister,
    and her breasts are not yet grown.
What shall we do for our sister
    on the day she is spoken for?
She responds with appreciating saying she too was like that until she found favor in the eyes of King Solomon. Next, she talks about those financial matters. King Solomon has leased out his vineyards for an annual payment of 1,000 silvers. She too has a vineyard, which she is willing to lease out for the same amount, and two hundred for those who tend it's fruits. She thus takes care of family business.

After having put everything to rest, she urges King Solomon:
Song of Songs 8:13 You who dwell in the gardens
    with friends in attendance,
    let me hear your voice!
She is anxious to mount upon those spicy hills of frankincense and myrrh,
Song of Songs 8:14 Come away, my beloved,
    and be like a gazelle
or like a young stag
    on the spice-laden mountains.

My Thoughts
This vineyard King Solomon leased out was most likely leased to her own brother, and possibly that is where King Solomon met her.

Song of Songs 7

King Solomon is sitting relaxed and watching his beloved perform that 'Dance of Love' in front of him. He is the eloquent speaker. Since the two of them are all alone, it is quite natural of her to have little or no clothing at all - this enables her beloved to rapturously enjoy her curves and beauty.

He is watching her beloved perform her gracious dance of submissiveness. It turns out, the only article of clothing is her sandals. King Solomon then starts scaling her upwards, her thighs, joints, navel, belly, breasts, neck, eyes, nose, head, and finally hair. He employs those similes of praise which he used previously.
Song of Songs 7:6 How beautiful you are and how pleasing,
    my love, with your delights!
He summarizes his survey about her to be pleasing and delightful. He visualizes her entire figure as that of a palm tree with it's clusters compared to her breasts.

At this point, King Solomon cannot restrain his ardor any further. He says,
Song of Songs 7:8 I said, “I will climb the palm tree;
    I will take hold of its fruit.”
King Solomon's ardent expressions of admiration and desire has culminated in obtaining her full attention. She is now ready to joyfully and willingly submit herself for a total physical union.
Song of Songs 7:10 I belong to my beloved,
    and his desire is for me.
Song of Songs 7:11 Come, my beloved, let us go to the countryside,
    let us spend the night in the villages.

His desire refers to the sexual desire and is fully directed towards her. She is suggesting, of enjoying those exotic fruits of love at the countryside where they used to enjoy - away from the busy city life. 

Song of Songs 6

The women of Jerusalem are curious and ask the bride about the whereabouts of King Solomon.
Song of Songs 6:1 Where has your beloved gone,
    most beautiful of women?
Which way did your beloved turn,
    that we may look for him with you?
This sudden interest on the part of those maiden was sufficient to wake the bride from her dream. To this, the bride answers,
Song of Songs 6:2 My beloved has gone down to his garden,
    to the beds of spices,
to browse in the gardens
    and to gather lilies.
She tells them that King Solomon has gone to other "garden" to browse and gather lilies. She then reassures herself that she belongs to her beloved, and he is her beloved.

As this is a poem, the scene now changes to the arrival of King Solomon, where his bride is waiting. He has no lesser love for her and has now forgotten about the entire episode from the other night.

Upon his return, he is once again elusive about her beauty. He tells her that she is far better than others.
Song of Songs 6:8 Sixty queens there may be,
    and eighty concubines,
    and virgins beyond number;
9 but my dove, my perfect one, is unique,
    the only daughter of her mother,
    the favorite of the one who bore her.
The young women saw her and called her blessed;
    the queens and concubines praised her.
His friends are inquiring who this beauty is. To them, he explains how he met her in the vineyard. They are interested in seeing her.

Song of Songs 5

King Solomon wasted no time to accept his bride's invitation. He entered his "garden" after the long await.
Song of Songs 5:1 I have come into my garden, my sister, my bride;
    I have gathered my myrrh with my spice.
I have eaten my honeycomb and my honey;
    I have drunk my wine and my milk.
After this, the lovers drift off to sleep. The bride has a strange dream. Her body is sleeping, but her heart is awake.

In her dream, her husband had gone somewhere and returned, seeking entrance to her chamber. Having settled in for the night, she hesitates. Her beloved continues his knocking. She then changed her mind. By now, she can see his hands reaching inside searching for that door latch.
Song of Songs 5:4 My beloved thrust his hand through the latch-opening;
    my heart began to pound for him.
Seeing this, her desire for his love overpowers her. Her fingers are now wet. She then hurries to open the door - only to find him gone. Apparently, he became discouraged at the the first coldness she exhibited. Her heart sank.

Still in her dream, she hurriedly put on her coat and veil and went out in the night. She looked for him, but could not find him. Instead, she found those city watchmen. Seeing a woman at the city at this hour, they think she is a harlot. They tore off her veil, hurt her and beat her.

She then shouts to those out there to convey the message to her lover that she is faint with love.

My Thoughts
Bad nights in the bedroom happens everywhere. The trick is not to repeat those performances.
The manner in which King Solomon took off after several failed attempts is just normal in bedrooms. This situation can tackled with love and communication. Timing is everything - a wise man and a wise woman needs to understand each other's sexual needs and maybe it is time to try something different this time.

Look at the trouble the bride got into. She does not have her beloved with her. On top of that, she got hurt by those city watchmen - all due to a small negligence. 

Song of Songs 4

This chapter talks about their wedding night.

We can hear King Solomon speaking to his bride. One can listen to those words of deep felt admiration for her physical beauty where he uses analogies. He speaks about her eyes, hair, teeth, beautiful lips, gracious speech, cheeks, neck, breasts, and finds no flaw in her.

After showering her with praise, King Solomon shares his loving desire to possess her in intimate marital sense. He wants to spend the entire night with her.
Song of Songs 4:9 You have stolen my heart, my sister, my bride;
    you have stolen my heart
with one glance of your eyes,
    with one jewel of your necklace.
10 How delightful is your love, my sister, my bride!
    How much more pleasing is your love than wine,
and the fragrance of your perfume
    more than any spice!
He then refers to her pre-marital chastity - a history which he deeply appreciates.
Song of Songs 4:12 You are a garden locked up, my sister, my bride;
    you are a spring enclosed, a sealed fountain. 
Next, he gets ready to unlock and enter that garden, a spring which he will now open, and a fountain soon to flow.

To this, she responds,
Song of Songs 4:16 Awake, north wind,
    and come, south wind!
Blow on my garden,
    that its fragrance may spread everywhere.
Let my beloved come into his garden
    and taste its choice fruits.

My Thoughts
Virginity is the biggest gift one can give his/her spouse.

Marriage is a divine approval to start enjoying sex. Couples should make sex a priority and keep that conjugal love in constant heat and vigor. This needs to be taught to our children as well.

LORD is happy when married couple enjoy his invention of sex. He takes delight in those sexual activities that place inside His followers' bedroom. LORD expects us drink and get drunk from that fountain of love he provided. 

Song of Songs 3

The bride is talking in this chapter. She mentions the absence of King Solomon in bed one night. She is found to be troubled and is now anxious to have that joy of her life restored. She went out to search her lover in the city.

Finally she found him with the help of city watchmen. She would not let him go. She insisted that he go with her to see her mother who would approve their marriage, once she met King Solomon.

Remember - at this point, she is still dreaming. Even in her dream, she is conscious enough to maintain sexual purity. That is what she urges the girls of Jerusalem to do:
Song of Songs 3:5 Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you
    by the gazelles and by the does of the field:
Do not arouse or awaken love
    until it so desires.
Next, we are taken into the actual wedding procession. This is not part of the bride's dream, but is an actual fulfillment of what she saw in her dream.

A wonderful poetic description of the wedding celebration is mentioned. It is a special time to make a statement. It involves a promise of life to one another by means of safety and security. Finally, it includes a pledge of commitment.

My Thoughts
I keep telling myself to slow down - this is not a detailed study where I have the liberty to keep typing forever. Therefore, I am cutting down on my explanations.

Awakening love - it is something huge. Those who have awakened love know how it feels and behaves, once awakened.

Commitment - something that is missing in many marriages today, which ends up in the court.

Song of Songs 2

King Solomon in this chapter makes us aware about the power of studying and praising our partner.
Here, he affirms how unique she is, and she does that in return as well.

He then goes on to proclaim both about protection and pleasure he derived from his partner.

Further, King Solomon suggests not to rush into love. He says, "Give it time." He also suggests to make love at the right place.
Song of Songs 2:4 Let him lead me to the banquet hall,
    and let his banner over me be love.
Next, we are told to make love with the right commitment. He was not ashamed of his love for her and did so by not contradicting his words. He wanted her, she wanted him, they were passionate, but all those essential ingredients were still not present.

Then she thought about their lovemaking and her mind carried her away towards their marriage which was almost close. She was faint with love and required to be strengthened and refreshed.

Then in verse 7, she goes on to say not to arouse or awaken love until it so desires. It is so important from a female perspective. This is what it means by right time.

She speaks about those gazelles and does of the fields - both beautiful female animals vigorous and sexually active in seasons.
Song of Songs 2:9 My beloved is like a gazelle or a young stag.
    Look! There he stands behind our wall,
gazing through the windows,
    peering through the lattice.
Song of Songs 2:10 My beloved spoke and said to me,
    “Arise, my darling,
    my beautiful one, come with me.
King Solomon then teaches us to listen and observe carefully. He reminds us that words are powerful weapons and messengers at times of romance. When he tells us about gazing through the windows, he is essentially telling us to watch our partner's eyes. He wants us to listen for the tone, listen for that passion etc. The reason is that little things can lead to larger events as relationships are sensitive.

The factor of trust is emphasized as the partners should know and belong to each other. It is important to know that lovers need each other.
Song of Songs 2:16 My beloved is mine and I am his;
    he browses among the lilies.
17 Until the day breaks
    and the shadows flee,
turn, my beloved,
    and be like a gazelle
or like a young stag
    on the rugged hills.

My Thoughts
LORD created man to be sexually active and always sexually interested. He created women to be sexual beings with sexual desires. A wise mate will understand the difference and hence bridge that gap to enjoy the company of each other.

Knowing that time of the day when one's partner enjoys sex the most is important for a wonderful sex life. This is a big deal for those girls. Majority of guys are ready almost anytime. It's only a tiny percentage of guys who observe lent, fasting etc., for whom timing is a concern.

Then there are emotions that change the mood. A person serious about marriage relationship should enroll himself in a dedicated study about sex - it is extensive and well worth.

As a guideline, it is better to know that men and women differ on several grounds.

Guys - talking may sound a difficult exercise, but it nurtures intimacy for women. Sometimes being a best talker is by listening to those feelings of women. What a woman wants from a guy is affirmation and assurance. Guys are visual animals and romance means sex. However, romance can mean a variety of things for girls - a candle lit dinner; a walk in the park, holding hands; watching the rain seated together, etc,.

Girls - Please understand that guys are wired differently. They tend to see life in a different angle. Their world comprises of dominance, strength, solutions, etc,. All they care about is being successful - in front of their family, friends and society. They respond in a different way to romance and sex - please feel free to ask straight as it will get results.

Song of Songs 1

King Solomon tells us how to begin a love story and how love, romance and marriage looks thorough the eyes of a child. We are told about getting started in a relationship.

Song of Songs is the best and finest songs. In this chapter, we are told that 'True Love' is accompanied by many blessings.

She desired to be filled with his kisses of mouth. She found his lovemaking to be far intoxicating than wine.

She says that she is dark and comely.
Song of Songs 1:6 Do not stare at me because I am dark,
    because I am darkened by the sun.
My mother’s sons were angry with me
    and made me take care of the vineyards;
    my own vineyard I had to neglect.
She confessed her unworthiness. and desired to be directed to the shepherds’ tents.

King Solomon found her to be beautiful.
Song of Songs 1:15 How beautiful you are, my darling!
    Oh, how beautiful!
    Your eyes are doves.
She found the King to be attractive as well.
Song of Songs 1:16 How handsome you are, my beloved!
    Oh, how charming!
    And our bed is verdant.
Notice how King Solomon calls her, "My Darling." He then told her about his love.

Next, he presented her with gifts. Actions can always speak louder than words.

From the actions of King Solomon, we can learn that admiration and desire for our partner should be expressed by means of words and actions so that he/she will understand it precisely.

My Thoughts
The person whom we love looks wonderfully beautiful in our eyes. It is because we see them with our internal eyes, through the lens of love. I always give importance to that inner beauty.

Marriage is the real deal and there can be ups and downs, and sure it does have romance. It pays a lot, to grow and learn more about our spouse.

Sex is most enjoyable when it is savored both physically and emotionally. The dimension of love adds spice to sex, and is the best with whom we love the most. When we make that vow of marriage in front of LORD, we are submitting ourselves to that partner - who now is a part of us. Sex at home, with the partner, is the best - unlike portrayed by these movies, books or advertisements - the media is deceiving us about sex. We need to do everything to preserve our marriage sacredly, so that sex can be enjoyed to the fullest extend.

Talking about communicating with partners, guys are hopeless when it comes to communication. They fail utterly to capture those cues and hints from women. Majority of men don't even understand that sign language women use. One request I have towards women - "Please communicate it openly with your partner when it comes to matters of romance, love and sex. Do not feel shy or hold back your thoughts. I guarantee you will have a steamy and wonderful evening."

Song of Songs - An Executive Summary

Song of Songs, is not one of those books that is usually discussed during a church sermon. Neither is it taught in a Sunday school setting. Song of Songs describes the intense love between a man and woman in explicit detail. To many Christians and Jews, it is a surprise how such a book made it into the canon of the Bible.

Most mammals who choose mates show interest in them only for brief periods of time, during the female cycle. Humans on the other hand, show interest in intimacy though-out the cycle regardless of fertility cycle. For humans, the expression of love goes beyond sex, reproduction and stretches far beyond those fertile years. This intimacy between a man and woman helps cement the love between husband and wife into a relationship which can last a lifetime. It is indeed, a gift from LORD.

This book portrays the deep genuine love between a man and a woman in marriage. The subject of this book is quite sexy in nature. King Solomon puts on full display of that intimacy LORD intended for a man and woman in a tastefully and appealing fashion. It demonstrates those joys of physical intimate love within marriage.

We learn from this book that sex is a wonderful gift from LORD. He invented it so that it should be enjoyed to the maximum between a man and woman within a marriage. King Solomon portrays the beauty of love and devotion between the two.

The desire for the darling is sung sweetly and beautifully in the form of a dialogue between a husband and his wife. The book can be divided into three sections:
- the courtship
- the wedding and
- the maturing marriage.

The Courtship
King Solomon owned several vineyards and while visiting one of them, he met a Shulamite girl from the countryside. She captured the heart of King Solomon, and they fell in love. He pursued her and made periodic visits to meet her. She waited for him to arrive and looked forward to his intimate caresses. King Solomon praised her beauty, overcoming her feelings of insecurity regarding her appearance.

The girl had a dream in which she lost Solomon and searched for him throughout the city. With the help of the city guards, she found her darling and clinged to him, taking him to a safe place. Upon waking, she repeats her injunction not to force love. She thought of letting love develop naturally, in its own time.

When the King asked her to marry him, the Shulamite girl gave serious consideration whether she would be happy in that majestic palace of King Solomon or not. She loved him so much that she finally agreed for the marriage.

The Wedding
A wonderful wedding procession was sent to escort the bride to King Solomon's palace. They got married in Jerusalem. The details of their intimate first night is recorded. On the wedding night, the King praised the beauty of his wife, and in a highly symbolic language, the wife invited her spouse to partake of all she had to offer. They make love, and LORD blessed their union.

The Maturing Marriage
As their marriage matured, the husband and wife deal with the joys and problems of marriage - they go through a difficult time, symbolized in another dream. In this second dream, the Shulamite girl refused the sexual advances of King Solomon, and he left her. Overcome with guilt, and realizing her foolishness, she searched the entire city for him. However, this time, instead of helping her, the guards beat her. Finally, she found him and they had a time of reconciliation.

She then asked King Solomon to take her on a vacation, towards those mountains of Lebanon where she grew up. The lovers unite in her home country where they enjoy sexual intimacy and pledge for mutual and devoted love for each other.

Both husband and wife are confident and secure in their love. Towards the end of this book, they sing of the lasting nature of true love, and they yearn to be in each other’s presence.